Posts tagged with ‘Homosexuality’
let's get a few things straight.
- bisexual with a preference for the same sex does not mean "one foot out of the closet."
- bisexual with a preference for the opposite sex does not mean "trying to get attention."
- lesbian does not mean "masculine."
- gay does not mean "feminine."
- transgender does not mean "going through a phase."
- transsexual does not mean "a disappointment." nor does it mean "gender identity confusion."
- asexual does not mean "prude."
- demisexual does not mean "prude."Tran
- objectsexual does not mean "mentally ill."
- pansexual does not mean "easy."
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Anonymous asked: So you seem to know a lot about this stuff and I was wondering if you could help me. I am a female. 90% of the time my sexual attraction is to other females, but I can never see myself in a relationship with a girl. All my romantic attractions are to men but I'm not sexually interested in the people I'm romantically interested in and I'm confused. What does that make me? Is this weird?
Well, it seems to me that you’re homosexual but heteroromantic. This is novel, I don’t think anybody’s said this to me before. It’s interesting.
I can’t say I’ve come up against it before, but that doesn’t make it weird, no. I have a pretty small sample size, I imagine, re: sexuality and romance.
Do you know a lot of women and men you have these specific types of attraction to? It’s possible you could just not be attracted sexually to the men/romantically to the women that you know so far? I’m not questioning your own identification of what you are, but it can be really dependent on who you meet. Sometimes it takes a specific person unlike one you’ve met before to gain both. I know that that’s part of the reason I identify as pansexual/panromantic BUT demisexual: the only difference between my sexuality and being entirely asexual is specific outliers of personhood (and I’ve yet to meet one who makes me want to have sex, despite all the ones I’ve met who draw romance from me).
I hope I helped, and feel free to keep talking to me about this! I can’t tell you what to do about it, though I can say definitely don’t push yourself to be sexual if you’re not sexually attracted or romantic if you don’t have that type of inclination. Some people can do that and confuse themselves brutally because they’re trying to live up to what’s “normal” and you don’t want to be in that situation, trust me. If you get to a point where you’re sexually attracted to a dude or romantically attached to a woman, you’ll know it, I promise you. :)
And, of course, there’s no right way to have a relationship. If you’ve got knowledgeable, consenting partners, there’s no reason you can’t have sex with a woman and a romance with a man simultaneously, to fulfill both desires at once. Polyamory is under-discussed and under-rated; as long as everyone’s aware of what’s going on, okay with it, and safe, go for it.
reblogged from midshot
I really like how they don’t clarify which of the boys in the picture is gay. It’s a subtle way of undermining stereotypes at the same time.
An engineering professor is treating her husband, a loan officer, to dinner for finally giving in to her pleas to shave off the scraggly beard he grew on vacation. His favorite restaurant is a casual place where they both feel comfortable in slacks and cotton/polyester-blend golf shirts. But, as always, she wears the gold and pearl pendant he gave her the day her divorce decree was final. They’re laughing over their menus because they know he always ends up diving into a giant plate of ribs but she won’t be talked into anything more fattening than shrimp.
Quiz: How many biblical prohibitions are they violating?
Well, wives are supposed to be ‘submissive’ to their husbands (I Peter 3:1). And all women are forbidden to teach men (I Timothy 2:12), wear gold or pearls (I Timothy 2:9) or dress in clothing that ‘pertains to a man’ (Deuteronomy 22:5). Shellfish and pork are definitely out (Leviticus 11:7, 10) as are usury (Deuteronomy 23:19), shaving (Leviticus 19:27) and clothes of more than one fabric (Leviticus 19:19). And since the Bible rarely recognizes divorce, they’re committing adultery, which carries the rather harsh penalty of death by stoning (Deuteronomy 22:22).
So why are they having such a good time? Probably because they wouldn’t think of worrying about rules that seem absurd, anachronistic or - at best - unrealistic. Yet this same modern-day couple could easily be among the millions of Americans who never hesitate to lean on the Bible to justify their own anti-gay attitudes.
- Deb Price, ‘And Say Hi To Joyce’
Reasons people support John/Sherlock:
- Because John is closer to Sherlock and has more of his trust than anyone else
- Because living and working with Sherlock has allowed John to find happiness
- Because they’re absurdly domestic
- Because other characters always, always perceive them as a unit
- Because the only surefire way to make Sherlock do something he doesn’t want to do is to threaten John
- Because John is jealous of Irene’s importance to Sherlock
- Because they would kill and die for each other without question
- Because it is clear that they love each other and occupy completely unique positions in each others’ lives
- Because the show has explicitly embraced the notion of sexual fluidity, giving us hope that they might actually have the maturity to entertain the possibility of a same-sex relationship as something other than a joke or innuendo
Reasons Mark Gatiss thinks people support John/Sherlock:
- because we’re horny girls who can’t resist two sexy men onscreen together
Listen to me ramble about Harry Styles, one of the most perfect human beings in the world, and
constantlyoccasionally bring up Larry Stylinson while doing so.
DISCLAIMER: None of what I say is fact. This post is not meant to be offending or derogatory; I simply want to bring up some points. What his sexuality is or is not really doesn’t matter, but nevertheless it is relevant.
JC Penney’s new ad for Father’s Day
The text reads:
“First Pals: What makes Dad so cool? He’s the swim coach, tent maker, best friend, bike fixer and hug giver—all rolled into one. Or two.” The text at the bottom reads: “Real-life dads, Todd Koch and Cooper Smith with their children Claire and Mason.”
This is fucking AWESOME and I’m seriously going to shop at JC Penney for the first time in AGES now.
so there’s a show on mtv canada called ‘1 girl 5 gays’. its pretty much a panel of 5 gay men and a girl (the host of the show) and they just discuss topics on love, sex and other taboo subjects. JP (the tweeter above) is one of the guys on the panel :)
HELP JP IS MY FAVORITE PERSON. aksdjhfaksjhd
he thinks louis is gay aka my life is literally complete
The heterosexism here is kind of blowing my mind, tbh. I can’t even strikethrough because it’s drenching this post.
Some of it might seem funny. More of it might seem hilarious. It may be hard to drop old habits. But, hey, fandom— it’s all kind of really suckish and it needs to stop.
- The “Five Flaming Homosexuals” trope. Not only is ‘homosexuals’ clinical, traditionally oppressive language, the idea of defining a group of people by their sexualities is patently problematic.
It’s not the fact that at least some of them are ostensibly straight and that we have no idea which of them, if any, are gay. Because, hey, calling anybody gay isn’t an insult— we’ll go over that lately.
It’s the fact that it’s dehumanizing. Just as Ellen is “that kickass, ridiculously talented, hilarious actress and talkshow host” rather than “that lesbian, you know the one,” One Direction is a group of boys that mean everything to us. Even if they meant nothing, they’re still individuals with personalities, passions, talents, the works. They are not their sexualities; nobody is.
Stop trying to make them so.
- “Lol, they’re gay, but it’s not an insult, joke’s on you.” It happens every day. I check the Larry Stylinson tag, not for the first time and not for the last, and there are at least two thousand chat logs (that’s a rough estimate) detailing this totally unique conversation in which someone at school calls the boys gay as a joke and our protagonist, the poster, valiantly giggles in their faces and validates their homophobic attempts at humor.
Yeah, no, let’s not.
Again, gay isn’t an insult, but they’re using it at once. And while the “I’m going to brush off your bullshit” approach may work some of the time, there is too big a chance that it goes over the heads of our antagonists much too often.
When somebody makes the incredibly original lol 1D iz gai joke, call them out on it. Don’t say “they’re not omfg Zayn is mine!!!” or “don’t say that!!!” or whatever. Address the fact that it shouldn’t be an insult and that their use of it as one is offensive. That’s it.
And don’t come home and make a sensationalized post about it while patting yourself on the back and ordering celebratory I’m-the-Least-Homophobic-Person pizza. You don’t get bragging rights for basic human decency, sorry.
- The “omfg so heterosexual” humor. That gif of Louis you’re about to reblog with some oh-so-witty caption because he’s deviating from traditional masculinity? Don’t. Please, for the love of all that is holy, don’t.
If any of the boys are into not-girls, let me assure you that the way they dress, their posture, or any other such triviality is not what’s indicative of it. Neither is the lilt. Neither is the occasional platonic hug or, you know, ball-slap.
Sexuality does not define personality, and the “look at them being sooo straight” remarks not only imply that it does, but perpetuate the goddamn patriarchy and one-size-of-masculinity-fits-all mentality and general bullshit that keeps people in the closet and forces people to suppress habits they’d have otherwise.
Let’s be real— One Direction has a habit of deviating from societal norms to some extent. Let’s not undermine that by making bad, offensive jokes of it.
They’re people. Start treating them like it, please?
This is not even a drop in the bucket. It’s barely a molecule of water. But it’d be a start.
It may seem like a good idea and your heart might really be in it, but every person to ever out somebody has honestly believed it has been for the greater good.
But it’s not. It never is. And you think that’s what you’re doing— something good— but it’s loaded with negative repercussions and it’s fundamentally problematic even when you don’t take the consequences into account.
While it’s historically— and this dates back to ancient Greek and Roman civilizations— founded on the idea that anything deviating from heteronormativity is immoral and a crime against any Innocent Masses the person in question may have influence over, outing in today’s societies is far more varied.
In pop culture, there’s been this massive gay witchhunt that took off with Perez Hilton’s utter bullshit and has become a phenomenon where every B-List media outlet and every fan feels they’re part of some personal mission to Out the Poor Gays.
But, like, no. Nope.
To out— or encourage the outing of— any of the One Direction boys because
- “they deserve to be freee!!!!!”
- “they obviously want to be out”
- “they’re being selfish and it would help so many people”
- “we need to change da world”
- “omfg management”
is undeniably deplorable.
Outing contributes to the widespread, systematic oppression faced by LGBTQ* individuals across the globe; it validates the idea that these individuals need to out themselves because they’re Straight Until Proven Guilty; it implies that sexuality is not a personal thing; it turns human beings into labels and pushes potentially unwanted responsibilities upon them.
Outing is not what you need to focus on if you want to promote progress, and the people you want to out are not the ones who should be under the magnifying glass.
Instead of making deliberately scandalous blogs, instead of promoting those blogs, instead of saying that “Larry just needs to come out already” or “we need to show them we support their relationships”— work on changing the things that keep people closeted and that make outing a phenomenon.
Work on the offensive jokes, the problematic habits, the warped mindsets. Don’t target specific couples. Make a point of working towards a world, however far-off or improbable it may seem, where none of it is a struggle.
Because it shouldn’t be, but we’re sure as hell making it one.
Hank Green on gay marriage (x)
When this video was uploaded yesterday, I was this close to cry tears of joy because this video is so perfect!
- Lucy Liu, Jane Magazine (via icicleman)
#and there you go #you may identify however you want I’m not saying you’re wrong #but I /am/ saying that sexuality is fluid #and that if more people would realize how fluid it is #they’d be less upset about it #because yes#most people identify as gay or straight #but everyone has exceptions #and that’s okay #really #it is #so can we please #as a culture #move on?