People who want to see Dean as a crossroads demon kissing Cas and stuff
Lilith was powerful enough to warrant actual sex when she made deals
Do you think Dean will be satisfied with just a kiss
Anonymous asked: Do you think BDSM could help me channel shit I went through? I was raped and tortured by a man for three months of my 17th year of life- everything from gags to chains, and ropes. I have scars and I'm both scared of them, but it makes me excited and hopeful when i see lesbian BDSM scenes. I don't understand why. I'm a lesbian.
Because of the dynamics of D/s I can actually enjoy having sex. I’m a rape victim as well, sex was awful, sex was a performance for me with a sham standing ovation for my partner.
If you want to be domme I suggest understanding why, and what you are getting from this.
For me, it’s the safety, control, and I sincerely understand how much of a gift submission is. My partners, 9 times out of ten, are bigger and stronger than I am, but they still beg for permission, the big finale isn’t the mans orgasm, but my satisfaction. Yes I hit, choke, and say names, but my partner is very aware that they are safe too.
I say this because bdsm porn scenes are for the male gaze, and I understand that women like it just as rough as men do, but when it comes to sexualized violence against women, you really need to make sure that you are not ‘taking it out’ on the person. Some people enjoy that, but for a lot of people who claim to be dom/me’s it’s hard to control and it turns into abuse. BDSM can help with a lot of things, but it can also make shit worse, and you always need to make sure you have you and your partners best interest at heart.
for righteous-man-and-a-fallen-angel, the second winner of my giveaway from like two months ago! she wanted something with ‘cute awkwardness’…well this is awkward at least, hope you enjoy!
THIS IS THE GREATEST THING IVE EVER SEEN
THIS IS SEXUAL ASSAULT, WHICH IS THE WORST THING I’VE EVER SEEN. There is nothing “cute and awkward” about this, OP, please examine why you think anything about this is “cute”.
The false equivalence of abuse with BDSM needs to die in silent ignominy.
The majority of the danger in and to the BDSM world comes from ignorant rubes whose only exposure to kink is fetish porn catering to straight male power fantasies and/or terribad fanfic written by other ignorant rubes who’ve yet to unpack their misogyny.
If you want to have a go at problematic elements of BDSM, go after the porn industry and others who spread misinformation first. Start with the fucking source.
Anonymous asked: Maybe I am misunderstanding, but are you saying that anyone who doesn't agree with your exact interpretation of these characters is an asshole?
I’m saying every individual who is part of/aligns with these people, who erase queerness in general, and demisexuality as part of the queer representation in question, to maintain these characters are unequivocally straight (I don’t care what you do with Irene for the most part because she’s already queer and lesbians could do with fewer ‘but she likes this guy cos he’s special’ assertions and queer people in general could do with a lot less bisexual erasure, but much rather demi than ‘exception’) is an asshole, yes. Yes, they are. Every single one.
I’m saying every single person who normalizes socially sanctioned heterosexist heteronormative bullshit by acting like one instance of non-heterosexual attraction is never enough to make you queer, erasing demihomosexuality, is. an. asshole.
And no, I don’t care how that makes those people feel, I really fucking don’t. I don’t care. I’m very tired of parts of fandom erasing my sexuality so they can push straightness into/onto fucking everything and perpetuate heteronormativity and allonormativity.
You can come at me, if you want, telling me ‘x’ person is the exception or what-the-fuck-ever, and I will ignore and/or hit back at you. I’m at the point of “fuck allosexist heterosexist assholes who want to erase me, all of them”.
Every person who hits back at “Dean is bi(romantic bisexual, cos that’s mostly what we tend to mean)” with “Dean is straight but [x dude]sexual” as opposed to “Dean is demihomo hetero” and the like in other fandoms, etc. is an asshole, and I don’t care who knows it until they care enough to stop being asses and erasing my orientation everywhere to protect straightness.
*straight fandom blogger voice* hey ive got a good idea how about instead of making that character bisexual we make them “straight with an exception” thats so romantic
When a person is not attracted to somebody unless they have formed an emotional bond with them?
THERE IS A WORD FOR THAT.
Use your words, fandoms.
What Dubious said and furthermore.
Cas is not “Deansexual.” He’s (sex-indifferent) demisexual, with a “more profound bond” with Dean, and nobody else, mostly cos he’s kind of asocial, and what friends he does have tend to be shitbags. (Most likely demipan considering his complete lack of difference in expectations for literally anybody re: gender, but so far only demi in general going by non-rape evidence. He could also be sex-indifferent asexual like Sherlock, with a romantic interest in—and thus enjoyment of sex with—Dean.)
Dean is not “Cassexual” or “Bennysexual” (or “Samsexual” [/gags with canon Dean cos we’re both disgusted by that]). He’s demihomo hetero. (But not really cos he’s biromantic bisexual. We have more than enough evidence of that by now.)
Sherlock is not “Johnsexual”. He’s demi. (He could also be sex-indifferent/sex-inclined asexual who wants to fuck John for closeness and John’s sake and nobody else cos romantic attraction?)
John is not “Sherlocksexual”. Nor is BBC’s Irene. They are “demihomo hetero” or “demihetero homo”. (That’s actually the most likely for them both, I think, but Moffat would never acknowledge it cos he’s an acephobic heterosexist dicknozzle.)
Fuck your “straight with an exception cos they love each other so much" or "heteroflexible" or "person-sexual" attempts to wiggle your faves out of being queer (which, by the way, are transparently queerphobic, cos yeah, helping your queerbaiting faves to erase and marginalize us.) by playing a numbers game of “only queer if this many”.
They’re still queer, got it.
They’re like me, not like you, erasive straight asshole clinging to more representation than millions you already have.
Deal with it.
/ / / / / SEPTEMBER 7th - 13th / / / / /
It’s almost time for Asexual Supernatural Week, where it’s time to celebrate anything of the asexual spectrum in the Supernatural fandom. Be it headcanons, meta, fanart, fanfiction, graphics, and anything else you desire! Tag your posts with #acespnweek and we’ll be sure to reblog them here!
To avoid feeling too restricting, the week’s days do not have themes. However, feel free to consider this list of ideas:
- Favorite ace relationships
- Favorite ace character
- Crossover ace relationships
- Possible ace moments
- Ace pride colors
- Ace AUs
(graphic by swordofthehost)
Please signal boost!
#warning for the blog:#cas/other#dean/other#but this is too cool to not share so idgaf#cas is so ace spectrum it hurts#asexuality#headcanons all the characters ace spectrum#except cas bc that’s canon (via)
*whispers*… support all ace people.
All of them. Everyone of the goddamned spectrum. Most of us spent too long feeling very broken or confused to later get told we dont get to be part of the one community we feel we relate to.
Sex repulsed ace? You’re great. I feel.you. I know exactly what that’s like.
positiveace? Man thats awesome. Whether it’s just from a like casual interest or curiosity in it as a fascinating topic or as an active participant because you like how it feels. If you arent attracted sexually to people you’re ace too and still welcome here.
Grey-a? I bet that was really confusing to figure out man, im so glad you’re here. Don’t worry I promise you’re awesome too, youre not a “fake” or anything like that.
Demi? You go, dude. Being attracted to your partner or someone you have that bond with doesnt make you less a part of our community. It doesnt mean you were “never really ace” or that now you’re totally allosexual. Demi is just as valid as other orientations.
Basically anyone that feels like they are part of the ace spectrum is awesome and you belong here, fuck what other people tell you.
Unless you’re a raging asshole and like a murderer or something. Then you arent awesome.
Demisexuals are real.
Demisexual experiences are valid.
Demisexuals are not special snowflakes.
Demisexuality is not slut-shaming: the orientation.
Demisexuals are part of the asexual community.
Demisexuals don’t deserve hate, derision, or contempt for their identity.
Punk!Cas sitting next to Dean to share their Physics textbook (since Dean is his partner, and one of the best in the class).
Dean mumbling, “Personal space, Cas.” even as he drinks in Cas’s tattooed neck, this close to him, like a drowning man with his eyes.
Cas looking up from the book, thoughtfully chewing his lip ring—a little green Koosh today, and backing off immediately. “My apologies.”
Punk!Cas nursing a beer at a party and Dean flopping on the couch next to him, scaring off Goth!Meg in her tight jeans trying to pick Cas up with soft words and invasive petting while he remains unfazed.
An immediate soft smile aimed to the side. “Hello, Dean.”
Dean sweating under his double layers cos it’s summer and Cas is wearing this tight t-shirt with some philosophical saying on it and shorts.
Dean being like “So what’s with the shorts? For Meg, maybe?” as he’s surreptitiously checking out Cas’s tight calves below the ragged, ripped jean material.
Castiel glancing at Dean with furrowed brows of puzzlement.
"What would Meg have to do with my clothing?"
Badass Punk!Cas leaping into a fray of assholes beating on Dean with an audible snarl, dressed in tie-dye jeans with a bee lip ring and a mohawk today, kicking some ass.
"Such a punk," the principal mutters, pulling Cas off Uriel and Alastair as Dean, three feet down the hall, picks up the shattered art project he’d made for Sam (that they’d destroyed).
Cas pulling away from the principal with determination, to go help Dean. “Is it ruined? I can help you fix it if you want.”
Dean looking up at him with glossy eyes. “You got detention for me, Cas, I think we’re good.”
Cas gently putting his hand over Dean’s and smiling, before running off to face the principal’s wrath.
Dean looking after him, shaking his head, watching his tie-dyed ass bounce away with a fond expression.
Dean seeing Punk!Cas, with his wildly purple highlights and eyebrow stud, dressed in all black, and shorts again, talking to preppy Daphne in her floofy skirt and polo with a smile at Meg’s birthday party and sighing, because of course he doesn’t have a chance.
Dean asking Punk!Cas if they’re going to the dance next week with a dejected slant of his shoulders.
Cas shrugging. “She didn’t ask me. I might go with Nora as friends, though.”
Dean biting his lip. “Anybody you’d go with, uh, not as friends?”
Cas, rubbing his hands over his knees, shrugs. “Why? Have you heard something?”
Dean stuffing his hands in his pockets and glancing away. “Nah. Just wondering.”
Cas staring at his tense jaw for a long time afterward, turned toward him so obviously that Meg walks in to ask Cas herself, and clacks in her leather skirt and brand new heels right back out of the room, annoyed. Happy fucking birthday to me. Never gonna catch that unicorn, apparently.
Punk!Cas and Dean at the dance with friends and they can barely hear each other, so they’re mere inches apart.
Cas’s tux is purple and black plaid and he actually bought a fucking lip ring that says boogie in tiny sparkly letters, the goddamn dork.
Dean comments on it with an aborted pointing motion that almost touched his lips. “Y’know, people think you’re really weird, man. Stuff like that, fighting so much, reading old school philosophy instead of doing gym…”
Cas smiles and shrugs. “People will invariably think that of anyone, Dean, you know that. It may as well be in a way I find comfortable.”
Dean mulls that over for a moment and then reaches over to squeeze Cas’s hand. “I think your weirdness is wonderful. And,” Dean trembles a bit, “and sexy.”
Cas swallows audibly. “I think you’re sexy, too, Dean.”
Dean almost hurts Cas’s hand, he holds it so hard then, whipping around, “You don’t think anybody is sexy, dude!”
Cas leans in with a whisper, “I don’t know anybody, not like you, Dean. I don’t like anybody like you.”
Dean glances around and yeah, this is scary as fuck, because guy, but. It’s Cas.
So he meets Cas halfway where he leans, and they kiss, just once, chaste. Smiling with sparkly boogie between their mouths with their eyes closed.
(Later that night in Dean’s bed, while Sam’s hanging over with Kevin and Jess, is not so chaste, and Dean gets to find out what Cas wears under his tight, bizarrely patterned pants.
because I haven’t been playing with photoshop for ages, because I have a fetish and because sassy, snarky punk!cas (hipster!cas?) with tattoos is so my jam
"Listen, Winchester, you’ve been checking me out for the last two hours and although I’m flattered because - let’s be serious - my ass looks ravishing in these slacks - it’s getting really frustrating. So either you come to terms with your raging bi-curiousity and let me devastate your beautifull ass upstairs.. or go home and keep jerking off to the fantasy of being sodomized by my gorgeous self." Cas winked. "My tongue piercing looks good but feels even better".
Yo… But asexual!cas doing “sultry” and “sexual” things around the house like sucking on a Popsicle and eating bananas and moaning quite a bit phonographically when he eats hamburgers that taste so damn good and bending over shamelessly around bisexual!Dean.
And Dean getting so damn flushed and flustered and popping boners in really inopportune times around him, and getting really frustrated with him, thinking he’s doing it on purpose.
So he starts doing those same things only like.. About ten times more sexual and obvious. Only to get more frustrated when it doesn’t work on Cas, and having Cas look at him all confused at first and then concerned when his not so well placed moans come more frequently, asking if he needs any pain medication because he “sounds like he’s in pain and should seek medical advice” to which Dean glares and marches back to his room mumbling something about “damn angel” and “trying again tomorrow.”
This goes on for months and takes several awkward coughs and “dude what the fucks?” from Sam before he realizes what’s up.